Monday, 28 April 2014

GO FOR IT!! Ignore the doubters, surround yourself with DOERS and don’t take NO for an answer.




Last week had some real highs and some very real lows. You do find your strength better in the lows. The highs are the ‘sit back and enjoy the moment’ moments. I have been through some real issues in my life and always come out a much stronger and more determined person.


In all honesty the last few months have been the hardest to cope with. The Menieres has been unbearable at times and has been exacerbated by the stress imposed on me by selfish, ignorant people. The fact I have an illness but it hasn’t stopped me from following my dreams speaks volumes to everyone who is willing to get off their backsides and have a go for themselves and I only tell my story in the hope that it will inspire just ONE person to have a go. Ignorance prevents some people from listening to the facts and understanding a person’s situation and no one will ever be able to change that. It’s a curse the ignorant will have to live with.


The best thing to come out of all this is my relationship with the boys has been galvanised even more and I hope I have clearly demonstrated to them that you can overcome adversity from all sources to achieve your dreams. Lead by example is my motto in life, along with never underestimate the power of ‘ME’. We all have the power within us to make a difference to our own lives and to the lives of others. It’s whether we chose to do it. My basic principles of my life and my parenting skills are:

  1. LISTEN, LISTEN, LISTEN
  2. Be clear on boundaries
  3. Be strong but not rude
  4. Be kind but not weak
  5. Be bold but not bully
  6. Be humble but not timid
  7. Be proud and not arrogant
  8. Be thankful not spiteful
  9. Be truthful, honest & demonstrate integrity
  10. Be YOU not who everyone else expects you to be

MOST IMPORTANT OF ALL - apologise when you get it wrong. Even as parents we don't always get it right. 

I take my role as a parent as the most valuable and rewarding role I will ever have in my life. I follow the same principles as I teach my boys. I don’t profess to the ‘do as I say, not as I do’ philosophy. If we don’t teach kids self-respect, community spirit, self-worth how on earth can they develop them??  I know from the last few months that I have two boys that will continue to grow into fine young gentlemen. I take great delight and pride in guiding and supporting them through their continued development.


SO, all in all, changing my career has had such a positive effect on the whole of my family. I never imagined following my own dreams would lead the boys to thinking more about where they want to be. Even my seven year old has started to discuss his aspirations which I think is priceless.  


Paul’s fundraising


Helping Paul in his fundraising campaign is an absolute honour but I have to say it is also keeping the sense of humour flowing and we all need to laugh. I look forward to his weekly blog and as I am editing it I am always laughing out loud. It does make me cry though as well sometimes. 


Paul has a new blog if you want to continue to follow his progress. http://givingplentytotwenty.blogspot.co.uk




Even the smallest amount can make a difference.




Beyond the Past




You could say the little things in life please me. 

On Friday the green writing appeared on Amazon. I don’t know if any of my fellow authors get excited at such small things but this little green line means my book is selling. 


That and receiving another 5* review means I must be doing something right. This encourages me to pick up my pen and start writing even more.


This weekend I spent writing and added 10,000 words on Saturday to the sequel Beyond the Lies. On Sunday I wrote another 5,000 before the Liverpool game I hastened to add!

I now have seven ideas for future novels and that excites me so much because I know and love the characters in these ideas just as much as I love Mark, Annie, Harry and Phillipa. In fact, I love all the characters I create and that is the beauty of writing – you chose who appears in the book.


Congratulations to Luis Suarez on his PFA Player’s Player award. A controversial player that has remarkably turned himself around with the help of good people.


I can’t go before I mention Liverpool FC. Yesterday was a tough game. Mourihno plays the baddie in the pantomime so well and I have to say he makes me laugh so much. My youngest was in tears when he heard Sky Sports News say Liverpool were out of the title challenge. Another life lesson – don’t always believe what is written or spoken!! He now knows that actually yesterday the world didn’t end, Liverpool aren’t being relegated and YES we are in Champions League next year AND there is still a possibility Stevie G will pick that trophy up. POSITIVE THINKING.


My advice to anyone would be GO FOR IT!! Ignore the doubters, surround yourself with DOERS and don’t take NO for an answer. Have a great week everyone. 










Tuesday, 22 April 2014

Is Easter really over...already...



First of all I want to thank all the people who have been really supportive over the last few weeks. Twitter has its pitfalls but it is also a place I have met some wonderful people that I probably wouldn’t have come across in the ‘real’ world. Thank you.

Today is the first day back at school for the boys and if I’m honest it’s a bit of a miserable day for all of us. It’s such a huge compliment when the boys would rather be at home than anywhere else. I must be doing something right.

Paul has a new blog if you want to continue to follow his progress. http://givingplentytotwenty.blogspot.co.uk




Even the smallest amount can make a difference.



After a week of the memorial and celebrations for the 96 of Hillsborough it is very much back to reality for everyone with the inquests resuming in Warrington. I only want to say thank you for making us so welcome in Liverpool and we are standing shoulder to shoulder for justice. 

Yesterday I took the boys to Anfield to the Celebration of the 96 charity football match. It was a tremendous day, demonstrating the true dignity, sincerity and generosity of everyone associated with Liverpool Football Club. It was great to see the first team players on the pitch encouraging the young foundation players and Stevie G looked right at home with his Manager’s stance on the touchline – thankfully he is not hanging his boots up just yet although I hear there’s a job vacancy at Old Trafford!

Also, OBJECTIVE ACHIEVED – Champions League here we come. 3 games to go… can it really happen…this year of all years??

I took a week out of writing last week but now I am itching to get back to it. This week I will be researching the IPCC procedures and the internal police procedures – gives a clue as to the plot of Beyond the Lies, the sequel to Beyond the Past.

It is always interesting to get constructive feedback from my debut novel. Over the last week a couple of new readers have contacted me to let me know how much they have enjoyed the book and that they can’t wait for the sequel to be released. I got the opportunity to ask them who their favourite characters were. As a writer, you try to create memorable, interesting and believable characters. Writing Beyond the Past, I believed readers would fall in love with Mark Smith, the main character. So far, the character the readers are more taken to is DCI Harry Fisher. Apparently in their words, ‘I wouldn’t mind having a policeman like him!’ There you go, that is the power of a book.

Thrilled to receive another 5* review on Amazon 

If you haven't read it yet, you can read the 1st three chapters of Beyond the Past FREE (Really hard to say for a Yorkshire Lass!) at www.pamcharles.com. There is also a list of characters and news of what I have been up to.  

This week Sky F1 are looking at the life of a genius and my ultimate sporting hero Ayrton Senna. Looking forward to catching some of it. 


Well I am off to write now. Have a wonderful week everyone. If you would like to get in touch, comment here or through:






 



Monday, 14 April 2014

The true spirit of sport by just a Mum


Well I turned up to a rugby match yesterday in summer clothes!! That was very optimistic but then again, that sums me up perfectly. I always try to see the good in everything and everyone, including hope of a happy outcome even out of terrible events. If my team loses I never turn against them. We grow so much more from loss, adversity and negative experiences than when we coast through life. I know I have instilled this philsophy into the boys which will stand them in good stead for their journey in life.



Sport is a wonderful medium in which to instill good, positive behaviour into children. This was demonstrated so clearly by football teams up and down the country and across the world this weekend. It makes me so proud to see the whole of the football world coming together to commemorate the loss of 96 fans that just went to a football match. Tomorrow I am going to Anfield to stand shoulder to shoulder with people I greatly admire. They have stood together for twenty five years and stared adversity straight in the face and never took 'no' for an answer. I am taking a Leeds Rhinos scarf for the Shankly gates to show rugby league stand with them too. Justice will follow. #JFT96.

On Saturday I was standing on the touchline watching my youngest train at football. It is so important for them to learn at an early age what team work is and to understand how to interact with people from all backgrounds. Team sports are perfect for this. Children learn without even knowing they are being taught. Never, ever underestimate the influence an exceptional coach can have on your child's life. Equally don't underestimate the power you have to positively influence your child's outlook of the world and their role within it.

This was demonstrated perfectly on Sunday. My eldest showed true character at his rugby match and far exceeded his years in terms of his integrity and wisdom. I want to thank the opposition parents that gave me such praise and credit for his behaviour. However he deserves 100% of the credit for putting into practice what I have taught him. I wrote in my blog Books, Blogs and Life about kids who understand their pathways but I forgot one essential element - SELF RESPECT. My son taught ME yesterday that if you teach a child self respect, everything else in their life will fall into place. The spirit of rugby league is in good hands...

Beyond the Past 


The book received another 5* review this week. It may not seem much to most people but any author will know how we love to cling onto any sign that someone is reading our work and enjoying it!  When the book was published I never imagined how deafening the silence would be. It isn't until you start getting independent feedback that you actually start to believe. I am sure other authors may agree or maybe it is just me! So when you get one glimmer of hope that, not only people are reading your work but someone actually loved it enough to write a review, well it's like winning a CUP FINAL (Okay so I am exaggerating but you get the point). Thank you for taking the time to read, enjoy and write about my book. It is appreciated.

If you haven't read it yet, you can read the 1st three chapters of Beyond the Past FREE (Really hard to say for a Yorkshire Lass!) at www.pamcharles.com. There is also a list of characters and news of what I have been up to. 

Paul’s fundraising efforts 





Watch out for Paul's post this week. I have a feeling it will be entertaining! http://givingplentytotwenty.blogspot.co.uk




Even the smallest amount can make a difference.

I almost forgot to say, one of my friends shared a positive thought I had posted on Facebook to her wall and one of her friends decided to give her small business idea a go!!! How cool is that!! One positive message, imagine if we all did that once everyday.

Well I am off to write the sequel now. Have a wonderful week everyone. If you would like to get in touch, comment here or through: